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WHAT IS A NARCISSIST

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Re: WHAT IS A NARCISSIST

Post by Marnie on Thu May 21, 2009 11:39 pm

The Narcissist is a Cannibal

We
have evidence that the narcissist knows he is mistreating you as we
reflect on his deceptions and the many other ways he hides his bad
acts. The term used in a criminal court is "consciousness of guilt". A
person gives evidence of their awareness of the wrongness of their acts
by their attempts to hide them. This concept is concrete enough to be
used as evidence in a court of law, so it is concrete enough for us to
use as evidence to convict our narcissist.

The narcissist
seeks targets of opportunity. You are abused by him because he thinks
he can get away with it. To deliberately use, abuse, hurt and obliterate someone just because you can is evil.
Those who argue that this doesn't mean the narcissist is evil make a
good point. They say it isn't about you in the narcissist's thinking.
They don't even see you so how can it be calculated evil?
While there is some truth to the fact that the narcissist ignores your
humanity I can't completely buy into this theory. The narcissist gives
it all away when they lie and cheat to get their way. If they truly
didn't "see" you then there would be no reason to create a false
reality for you in order to obscure truth. They know they have to deal
with the fact that you are a separate (from them) human being with a
mind of your own, so they have to be aware of what they are
doing to you. He has found a way to exonerate himself from the label of
evil in order to continue doing what he does. Are you willing to
exonerate him too? We become his slave if we do. What the narcissist
does to his victims when no one is looking is evil. He knows this on
some level which is why he projects his evil acts off of himself onto
others in an effort to distance himself from that which blackens his
own character.

The narcissist works to completely
obliterate you as a separate human being. His goal is to assimilate
you. Make you an extension of himself. This is what justifies him using
you. You've been transformed into another of his body parts that he
gets to use at his will. You have no will of your own he has to
consider. You have no needs or desires separate from his own. The way
this assimilation is accomplished requires evil acts. To maintain this
relation to another human being requires ongoing evil acts. It is a
form of cannibalism. In my understanding, cannibalism is always evil.
Even if the cannibalism is only psychological. Who you are is defined
by your mind. To consume who you are....how is that not cannibalism?

Because I believe in the existence of evil I am able to work to avoid
doing evil. To avoid doing evil is to avoid being evil. Goodness in
people is never an accident, in my opinion. Good character requires
decision and effort. The easy path is the evil path. Good character
means we practice self-denial when necessary, we consider the feelings
and needs of others (sometimes at the expense of our own), we live in
the truth (whether good or bad), we conduct ourselves honorably whether
or not someone is looking. If we aren't allowed to call evil by its
right name then we really are not able to credibly give honor to
goodness. To do away with one is to do away with the other.

If we can't say that deliberately hurting someone is evil then we
dis-empower victims of evil. They have no real name to attach to their
experience or their abuser. Pop psychology doesn't believe in the
concept of evil so victims of narcissists are left to assume the abuser
doesn't really mean to do what they do, or they have to excuse the
abuser on the basis of the abuser's own "damage", and they have to
minimize their own experience and blame themselves. This makes it very
hard to pull away from the abuser because we are left to believe that
in some way we are the problem. The abusive narcissist is quick to tell
us that is so because he is quick to use pop psychology to exonerate
himself. He's not insensible when society hands him a "get of of jail
free" card. He grabs it and runs with it. Combine pop psychology with a
narcissist and you make him worse. Research is bearing this fact out.

Calling evil by its right name allows the abused the opportunity to see
valid reasons to get away from the evil that ensnares them. An
acknowledgment that evil does exist is directly related to
the concept of freedom. As long as we don't call evil by its right name
we are entrapped by it. Emotionally, mentally, even physically. We are
slaves to someone's will. Call evil by its right name and see the path
to freedom open up in front of you.

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WHAT IS A NARCISSIST

Post by Marnie on Thu May 21, 2009 10:59 pm

http://barbarany_9.blogspot.com/2009/04/echoes-of-narcissism.html



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