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THE UGLY BYSTANDER

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THE UGLY BYSTANDER

Post by Marnie on Fri May 22, 2009 11:35 am



http://narc-attack.blogspot.com/2007/04/ugly-bystander.html


I think the misplaced sympathy out there for narcissists comes from
people wishing to push unpleasant stuff out of their minds so that they
have but selective awareness of an event like narcissistic abuse.

When we say that narcissists lack empathy, we mean exactly that. In plainer
language, they are brutal, treating those they abuse subhumanly. Their
callousness is something one must see to believe. Often the victim
cannot get his or her mind around it and goes into a state of shocked
disbelief of their own eyes and ears.

When narcissists see that they are drawing blood, they get sadistic.

This behavior makes no sense till you remember why narcissists do this. They
are stomping you down to elevate themselves. It's the Teeter Totter
Game I give many examples of in the eBook.

In doing this, they are morally trampling you to have something to thump their chests about and give a Tarzan yell.

They get HIGH on treating others like dirt.

So, keep a tight grip on that fact: they don't do it because it's evil;
they do it because it makes them feel good. They are sick in the head.
They have unbearable pain/shame inside that keeps trying to surface to
consciousness on them. This pretending to be grand by stomping you is
just their way of killing that pain by keeping it repressed.

Abuse is an addiction with narcissists. The more they degrade you, the bigger
dose of this high they get. Which is why they are sadistic.

So, here you have them abusing their victim in cold blood sadistically.
Then, when the victim complains, they turn around with their little
Wouldn't-Hurt-a-Fly mask on for the bystanders, whining about their
need to "heal."

Yes, THEIR need to heal.

Some folks don't know a joke even when it slaps them in the face like that.

Right out of the bystander's mind goes what's on the other side of that coin
- what that angel-faced narcissist just did to that victim. In other
words, they take this "Poor-Little-Me" act out of context.

More important, the bystanders thus avoid having to know what they know
about such phony face changes = that the narcissist is diabolical and
laughing up his sleeve.


All they let themselves see is whiny
angel-face before them right now. Because it's warm and cuddly and
doesn't rattle their cage or require them to do anything about anything.

Or cross this guy they are suddenly afraid of.

Ah, that whiny little angel-face he has, upon whom they misplace their wretched sympathy.


Then they go off and correct the VICTIM for wrongdoing. Yes, that's right: some folks don't even know a joke when they tell it.

The victim has sinned by feeling angry or wanting a divorce or wanting to
retaliate so as to make the abuser stop it. THAT'S the only sin the
ugly bystander sees. Nothing the narcissist did gets a peep out of him
or her about it.

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